It seems to me to be nearly impossible to live with friends. Why? Because slowly, over time, they convert into part of your daily life. They become just "the people you live with", and you end up taking each other's presence for granted. This has happened to me, to date, 3 times and I'm starting to wonder if it's my problem. Am I just cursed? Or a terrible friend? Or just an introvert who needs alone time but doesn't mind a friendly "hello" and in fact craves it from time to time?
I Don't Know.
But I am now extremely hesitant to live with any friend, because the damage done from living in the state of "granted presence" is that you are never friends again. It's terrible.
-Randa
Wednesday, January 27, 2016
Sunday, January 17, 2016
My Queen
Someone, the other day was saying to me, "you could have been a queen, my queen." Now that I've ruminated over the sentiment, I've decided something.
Look at me. I am a Queen. I am my own queen, and I don't need anyone else to tell me what I am for it to be true. I just know it in my blood and my bones. But you're a Queen too. Or a King.
I decided something else, too.
I belong to no man, woman, or deity. No one has a claim upon me but myself. And I only want to belong to myself. I'm not a bird to be caged up, I'm not a dog to be owned. I'm a person who has an independent heart, mind, and spirit. And if the people I am around can't handle that, then I need to find new people.
-Randa Marie
Look at me. I am a Queen. I am my own queen, and I don't need anyone else to tell me what I am for it to be true. I just know it in my blood and my bones. But you're a Queen too. Or a King.
I decided something else, too.
I belong to no man, woman, or deity. No one has a claim upon me but myself. And I only want to belong to myself. I'm not a bird to be caged up, I'm not a dog to be owned. I'm a person who has an independent heart, mind, and spirit. And if the people I am around can't handle that, then I need to find new people.
-Randa Marie
Saturday, January 9, 2016
This Is Your Job. Your One Job.
Take care of yourself.
That is your one job. No one is going to do it for you, and if they do, it will be shitty. The number one rule of business is never trust anyone else to do your job. Do you know why? Because they won't do it as well as you do, whether it's because of a lack of skill or a lack of caring. So this New Year, take care of yourself first. It's not selfish, it's practical. It's also healthy and important.
Don't just take care of yourself, be kind to yourself.
Too many people are their own worst enemy. Sometimes, the biggest bully is the one in the mirror, and that's really awful. We shouldn't do that to ourselves. Criticism is okay--it's what keeps the ball rolling--but not bullying. Complement yourself. Everyday. Take yourself out on a date (I've done this, and it was so nice). Do what makes you feel confident, beautiful.
Take care of yourself and be kind.
Society has taught us to be self-detrimental. Religion teaches us that self-sacrifice is the only way. From nearly all major sources of bombardment, we are taught that loving ourselves, that putting our needs first, is wrong. That's great from a societal standpoint, but only for the people at the top of the chain, trying to sell you the next new thing that will make you a super star. They don't want you to realize that you are a super star already. As for religious institutions, self-sacrifice is great, a little bit of the time. It can teach some valuable lessons. But on the scale that religion seems to demand, it's actually pretty unhealthy.
You are a goddamn superstar. Act like it.
-Randa
That is your one job. No one is going to do it for you, and if they do, it will be shitty. The number one rule of business is never trust anyone else to do your job. Do you know why? Because they won't do it as well as you do, whether it's because of a lack of skill or a lack of caring. So this New Year, take care of yourself first. It's not selfish, it's practical. It's also healthy and important.
Don't just take care of yourself, be kind to yourself.
Too many people are their own worst enemy. Sometimes, the biggest bully is the one in the mirror, and that's really awful. We shouldn't do that to ourselves. Criticism is okay--it's what keeps the ball rolling--but not bullying. Complement yourself. Everyday. Take yourself out on a date (I've done this, and it was so nice). Do what makes you feel confident, beautiful.
Take care of yourself and be kind.
Society has taught us to be self-detrimental. Religion teaches us that self-sacrifice is the only way. From nearly all major sources of bombardment, we are taught that loving ourselves, that putting our needs first, is wrong. That's great from a societal standpoint, but only for the people at the top of the chain, trying to sell you the next new thing that will make you a super star. They don't want you to realize that you are a super star already. As for religious institutions, self-sacrifice is great, a little bit of the time. It can teach some valuable lessons. But on the scale that religion seems to demand, it's actually pretty unhealthy.
You are a goddamn superstar. Act like it.
-Randa
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